The Dad Diaries

“why I choose surrogacy?

Dreams of fatherhood often seemed like distant stars in the vast sky of my life’s journey, but as I turned 37, they began to shine brighter, guiding me towards an unexpected path. Ever since I can remember, becoming a father was a dream I held close to my heart. I had even set a personal deadline: by 35, I’d be a dad. Yet, life had other plans.

As I celebrated my 35th birthday, my life was a whirlwind of excitement and success. Living on a small desert island in Bahrain, I was running a successful production company with shows on Netflix, launching the region’s first performing arts school, and jet-setting to places like Italy and Thailand. Love had also blossomed, though it led to paths diverging, not converging, on the journey to parenthood.

Turning 37 brought a reflective shift in me. My lifelong dream resurfaced, nudging me to confront a profound question: “How can I, as a gay man, fulfill my dream of fatherhood?” The end of a four-year relationship post this revelation did little to deter my resolve. I found inspiration in the resilience of single mothers, who seamlessly blend the roles of provider, caretaker, and nurturer. Embracing the possibility of single fatherhood, I thought, “Why not me?”

The journey to fatherhood was akin to navigating a labyrinth filled with complexities and unforeseeable turns. The idea of adoption, a path filled with nobility and selflessness, initially seemed like a viable route. However, the reality was far more challenging, especially for a single man residing in the Middle East. The process was fraught with red tape, societal biases, and a lengthy, uncertain wait, diminishing the feasibility of this option.

Determined to find an alternative, I turned my attention to the world of surrogacy. This path, however, was not without its own set of hurdles. The financial aspect was particularly daunting. In countries like Canada and the US, the costs of surrogacy were astronomical, starting at $120,000, a figure far beyond what I was prepared to invest. This financial barrier seemed almost insurmountable, casting a shadow of doubt over my dream.

But then, amidst the sea of challenges, a beacon of hope emerged: the Kiran Infertility Center in India. Their reputation for excellence and more accessible costs caught my attention. However, India’s changing legal landscape regarding surrogacy posed a new challenge. A recent law required one of the intended parents to hold an Indian passport, a criterion I did not meet.

Fortuitously, this obstacle led me to discover Kiran Infertility Center’s expansion into other countries, including Kenya. Unlike other nations, Kenya’s legal framework was more accommodating, allowing single men to embark on the surrogacy journey. This revelation was the turning point I needed. It provided a glimmer of hope, a chance to realize my dream of fatherhood.

Thus, on the dawn of my 38th birthday, with a mix of apprehension and exhilaration, I boarded a flight to Mombasa. Clutching a budget of $45,000, my heart brimmed with a cocktail of emotions – hope, fear, and an unyielding determination. As the plane soared toward my destination, I couldn’t help but feel a profound sense of destiny. I was embarking on a quest not just to become a dad but to embrace the challenges and triumphs that lay ahead in this incredible journey of fatherhood.



Joseph Tito is a dynamic and influential content creator and social media influencer. Known for his engaging and informative videos on a wide range of topics, including surrogacy, parenting, and personal development, Joseph has amassed a large following on platforms like YouTube, Instagram, and TikTok. He is a trusted source of information and entertainment for his audience, and his dedication to creating high-quality content has made him a leading figure in the influencer community.




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