my surrogacy journey to becoming a single dad of twins

“twins!?!

“twins!?!

Jesus Murphy, as my mom would say! So here I am patiently waiting for the results of the first ultrasound. I should have received it on Tuesday, but Tuesday came and went, Wednesday passed, and by Thursday I started to become a little nervous, so I emailed the Doctor. 5 minutes later I receive a response with a pdf document attached, “Obstetric Ultrasound.” I quickly open it praying to God that everything will be ok.

“Intra-uterine gestational sacs is demonstrated with fetal poles. Fetal maturity by CRL (5.7mm) corresponds to 6w Gestational Age FOR BOTH. ” For both? I think I stopped breathing for a while, just looking at the results. Breath.

Twins! What that! Freakin twins! Being a single father, with one baby is hard enough. Everyone I talk to that has their first baby tells me, ‘forget about what you read, or everyone tells you, it’s hard!’ I can’t even begin to imagine two.

Well, apparently twins and even triplets are extremely common in surrogacy. It all has to do with the process of IVF, and with how many embryos are transferred into the womb of the surrogate mother. So 3-4 embryos are usually transferred into the womb, in hopes that one will take. But there can also be a chance that they all take, or at least 2 of the 4 take.

This has been a long journey, and it’s only the beginning, as long as my baby or babies are healthy, then I will be happy. But twins!!! The only positive thing I can think of is that the first two years will be a nightmare for me, but I know that after I will sleep a little lighter knowing that they will always have each other.

Breath. Just be careful what you ask for. I prayed to God for a child, and I’m sure he looked down at me and said, ‘you want a kid, here have two. Let’s see how you gonna deal with that!’ How am I going to deal with that? 2 strollers, 2 baby seats, 2 universities!!! How the hell am I going to afford baby Gucci now?



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