I guess one of the hardest things about the surrogacy process is the waiting. Being on the other side of the world and feeling helpless. Not being able to do anything but wait. Then, of course, all the questions and doubts come up. Am I doing the right thing? Can I be a good father? […]

“the clinic

There is really not much to say about the clinic. If you are from a first world country, then it’s probably not like you are used to. There is a reason why the cost is dramatically lower. Besides the heat that you encounter while in the waiting room. The facilities are well; I guess it […]


Jesus Murphy, as my mom would say! So here I am patiently waiting for the results of the first ultrasound. I should have received it on Tuesday, but Tuesday came and went, Wednesday passed, and by Thursday I started to become a little nervous, so I emailed the Doctor. 5 minutes later I receive a […]

“testing my boys

One thing I forgot to mention was during this whole experience before I signed the contract and set a date to go to Kenya. I thought; I’m a pretty healthy person, I eat right, go to the gym, take all my vitamins, but I should probably test my semen. Being a gay man I’ve never […]

“choosing an egg

Okay, I’m bad at choosing the right eggs at the supermarket, let alone select the genes of my child. What do you look for in a donor? So I get an email with about 40 women aged between 20-28. Besides a couple of pictures of what they look like, you get to know; age, height, […]

“the contract

So a couple of months of contemplating and talking to people with very mixed feelings, I decided to ask for the contract. I’m very used to business contracts and the majority of them you give no thought to, you give it to your lawyer and make sure to dot your i’s and cross your t’s. […]

“step by step

So what exactly is surrogacy? A lot of people say they know what it is but I find myself explaining it to many people, and after they understand what it is, a lot don’t know what to say. My parents have been my biggest supporters; I don’t know if I would go through this journey […]

“why Kenya?

So why Kenya? Well as I prevision mentioned the cost was a deciding factor in why I choose Kiran Infertility Center in Hyderabad, India. But when I decided to go for it, India passed a law, which stated that one of the intended parents of the child must have an Indian passport. So I was […]