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My name is Joseph Tito, I’m a film and television producer that has traveled the world. Last year I decided to become a single father, it hasn’t been easy but the journey has well been worth it. From Jet-Setter to Fatherhood and everything in between, this is my journey. A journey of a single gay man becoming a father of twins!

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From Jet-Setter to Fatherhood. My life with my twins. #twindad | #digitalmarketer | #contentcreator info@thedaddiaries.com

I've spent a lot of my life running from Canadian

I've spent a lot of my life running from Canadian Winters. I don't like the cold! Now with the girls, I have no choice but to suck it up and get my butt outside. When @BaffinWorldwide reached out and told me to pick a pair of winter boots - I couldn't get on the website fast enough. @AltitudeSports has a massive selection of winter boats to meet all your tastes, I choose the Baffin Impact boot. Baffin is engineered in Canada and tested worldwide. These bad boys are rated to perform at -100C/ -148F. Trust me when I say, I didn't feel the cold at all! Not to mention, I look pretty cool wearing these puppies. Check out my story for more details and a swipe-up link to where you can get yours today. #Baffin #BaffinPartner #winterwonderland #winterboots #snowboots #boots

Have you ever felt parenting guilt or shaming? You

Have you ever felt parenting guilt or shaming? You're not alone! We've all had moments that have kept us up at night, questioning our ability to raise a healthy and happy child successfully. My guilt started before the girls were even born. I had my girls in what people may say, “an unconventional way.” As a gay man, having children is not easy. It's not like waking up one day and discovering you are pregnant. My choices were limited. After looking into the long, painful journey of adoption and realizing that as a single man, it would be extremely difficult, if not impossible, I decided on surrogacy.
With that decision came the guilt. Was I selfish in wanting a baby? Was I going against what God wanted? Would my baby suffer from not having a mother? These pressures and feelings of guilt were fueled by societal expectations of what constitutes a "good" parent. I even received messages from strangers online saying what I was doing was sinful. As I said, you are not alone in feeling parenting guilt and shaming.
That's why Nestlé Baby & me is launching a #ParentingMyWay resource area on www.nestlebaby.ca, which addresses many topics and questions that parents have as they prepare for their baby's arrival and raise their baby in the early years. I know firsthand that parenting is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. But know there is no right or wrong way of doing things, you do you.
The best way to overcome the guilt and shame is to address it head-on by sharing your #ParentingMyWay story to break down barriers and generate a more supportive environment for parents. Let me hear your story. #NestleBabyCA #NestleBabyAndMe # ad

2 turning 20! It’s crazy how fast my little ladi

2 turning 20! It’s crazy how fast my little ladies are growing. Everyday there is something new, a new emotion, a new word....
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Finally, I came across something that was geared t

Finally, I came across something that was geared towards fathers. Since starting my surrogacy journey, I've found few parenting strategies for dads. We dads constitute a significant part of many families but don't always have the tools we need to be better parents. That’s why @movember developed Family Man, a parenting program designed with dads in mind. In partnership with @todaysparent, I took part in the program, watching the three-episode interactive video series and put my learnings to practice. I understood what I was doing wrong, or better yet, what didn't work when trying to get my girls to understand and follow the house rules. Family Man is backed by evidence-based parenting strategies that work, with recommendations to correct misbehaviour while reinforcing love and care. I know that life can get busy, but this single dad highly recommends each episode. Why not live a happier home life? Check out my link in bio for more information. # ad #parentingadvice #parenting #dadlife #toddlerlife #positiveparenting

#Ad For me, all of this time spent at home means a

#Ad For me, all of this time spent at home means a whole lot of TV and, well, eating a whole lot. While it's easy during these challenging times to throw your fitness goals out the window, there's one thing that hasn't changed and that's my morning routine. My smoothies are my way of feeling healthy, knowing I get all the nourishment I need to start my day right.

When @Silk_Canada reached out about trying their new unsweetened original almond and cashew protein beverage, I was all over it. I already use Silk's Almond beverage, so I knew I would love it. With 8g of plant protein with 0g of sugar per serving, this tasty blend of almonds, cashews and pea protein is the ultimate base for all your smoothies. #SilkCanada #SilkProtein #GoodForYou

Happy Valentine’s Day from the #titotwins. May y

Happy Valentine’s Day from the #titotwins. May your day be filled with love. ❤️❤️ .
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Wake up, coffee, get the girls ready, work, make d

Wake up, coffee, get the girls ready, work, make dinner, get the girls to bed, Netflix, bed. Wake up, coffee, get the girls ready, work, make dinner, get the girls to bed, Netflix, bed. I'm sure this has been the lives of many of you. Some days I find it hard to get out of bed. It's hard during these times to remain positive. I know that there are a lot of people that are not as lucky as I am. But I'm still finding it hard to find motivation and not to lose my shit. We are already in mid-February, and things are not looking any better. What do you do to get your mojo going?
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As you guys all know, I've recently gone through s

As you guys all know, I've recently gone through some major home renovations. The kitchen is the heart of our home, spending most of our time there. It was essential for me to love everything about it. Well, now you can enter to win your dream kitchen too. Enter @theroyalekittens Best Home Ever Contest to win $10,000 to use towards home upgrades plus 1 of 10 $1,000 instant prizes by purchasing NEW Royale Velour Ultra Plush between January 25th – February 27th. Check out the link in my bio for more information. I know that it's hard to live through renovations but, in the end, you'll walk into that room, and it'll all be worth it. Plus, you get to use Canadian made Royale Velour Ultra Plush bathroom tissue. Trust me. You'll thank me later! 😉😉 Check out the link in my bio to enter!! # ad #RoyaleVelourUltraPlush #RoyaleBestHomeEver

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*No purchase necessary. Contest rules at Royale.ca. Contest closes at 11:59:59 (ET) on 11/03/21. Open to residents of, and who are located in, Canada and have reached age of majority in their province/territory of residence at time of Registration. Prizes: 1 Grand Prize consisting of $10,000 CAD and 10 Instant Win Prizes each consisting of $1,000 CAD. Limit: 1 Grand Prize and 1 Instant Win Prize per email/person/household. Grand Prize draw to beheld on or about 12:00:00 (ET) on 27/03/21 in Whitby, ON. Instant Win Prizes must be claimed by 25/03/21. Any unclaimed Instant Win Prized will be awarded. Reserve Draw to be held on or about 12:00:00 (ET) 27/03/21 in White, On. Total number of Instant Win Prizes available to be won will decrease as they are awarded. Odds of winning: (1) Grand Prize and any unclaimed Instant Win Prizes depend on number of eligible entries for the Grand Prize Draw and any Reserve Draw; (2) Instant Win Prize depend on the number and timing of entrants that enter after a Winning Time. All potential *winners must be confirmed as winners, including by correctly answering a mathematical skill-testing question. Grand Prize (and any Instant Win Prize(s) awarded in the Reserve Draw) must be claimed by 10/04/21®/TM/MC Trademarks of Irving Consumer Products Limited. © 2020 Irving Consumer Products Limited

Happiest of birthdays to my rock! To a parent that

Happiest of birthdays to my rock! To a parent that I aim to be like. My number one supporter. I love you with all my heart and soul. #happybirthday #lovemymom #motherslove #myrock #myinspiration

With my girls starting to potty train, I need to u

With my girls starting to potty train, I need to use the softest bathroom tissue for their delicate skin. New Royale Velour Ultra Plush, is the plushest and thickest bathroom tissue that I've ever felt. It has my vote as Canada's most trusted branded bathroom tissue. Looking to improve your nursery or bedroom, well now is your chance! You can enter @theroyalekittens Best Home Ever Contest to win $10,000 to use towards home upgrades plus 1 of 10 $1,000 instant prizes by purchasing Royale Velour Ultra Plush between January 25th – February 27th and uploading a photo of your receipt before midnight on Mach 11th, 2021. Check the link in my bio to enter! Good luck! # ad #RoyaleVelourUltraPlush #RoyaleBestHomeEver
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*Contest Rules & Regulations
*No purchase necessary. Contest rules at Royale.ca. Contest closes at 11:59:59 (ET) on 11/03/21. Open to residents of, and who are located in, Canada and have reached age of majority in their province/territory of residence at time of Registration. Prizes: 1 Grand Prize consisting of $10,000 CAD and 10 Instant Win Prizes each consisting of $1,000 CAD. Limit: 1 Grand Prize and 1 Instant Win Prize per email/person/household. Grand Prize draw to beheld on or about 12:00:00 (ET) on 27/03/21 in Whitby, ON. Instant Win Prizes must be claimed by 25/03/21. Any unclaimed Instant Win Prized will be awarded. Reserve Draw to be held on or about 12:00:00 (ET) 27/03/21 in White, On. Total number of Instant Win Prizes available to be won will decrease as they are awarded. Odds of winning: (1) Grand Prize and any unclaimed Instant Win Prizes depend on number of eligible entries for the Grand Prize Draw and any Reserve Draw; (2) Instant Win Prize depend on the number and timing of entrants that enter after a Winning Time. All potential *winners must be confirmed as winners, including by correctly answering a mathematical skill-testing question. Grand Prize (and any Instant Win Prize(s) awarded in the Reserve Draw) must be claimed by 10/04/21®/TM/MC Trademarks of Irving Consumer Products Limited. © 2020 Irving Consumer Products Limited

Well, here we are, February 5th, World Nutella Day

Well, here we are, February 5th, World Nutella Day!! Nutella is the one and only original hazelnut spread and Canada’s favourite. When it’s this good – fans want to celebrate and that’s why World Nutella Day was created by a fan for the fans. World Nutella Day is about bringing together Nutella fans worldwide to celebrate their passion for Nutella through social media.
Pancakes ☑️, Waffles ☑️, homemade Nutella brownies ☑️. I want to know what you're doing to celebrate World Nutella Day, and if you have any recipes that include Nutella - I WANT TO KNOW!! Write it in the comments below ⬇️⬇️⬇️—#WorldNutellaDay @nutellaCA #ad

Every time I leave them, a piece of my heart feels

Every time I leave them, a piece of my heart feels sad. I know that they will be ok. I also know they are happy. I also know that I have to work to provide for them. But #parentguilt sucks!!
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I'm starting to go a little stir crazy!! I know th

I'm starting to go a little stir crazy!! I know that I'm not the only one dying to change up my daily routine, which consists of staying home. With all my Netflix and Prime shows finished, Joe and I are looking for something else to do rather than watch mindless TV to pass the time. We've been playing cards and even bought Jenga. But we need your help. What are some things you and your family do to pass the time. Please, please, please let me know below!
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❌❌GIVEAWAY❌❌ With all that is happening ar

❌❌GIVEAWAY❌❌
With all that is happening around us, I need to keep my home clean and germ-free, especially for my girls. When @AlloraClean reached out, I was all about it. I never tried their products, so I was intrigued. After using @alloraClean products, I can honestly say that I sleep better at night, knowing that I've killed 99.99% of viruses and bacteria, especially with two toddlers running around. From wipes to sprays and hand sanitizers, Allora has you covered. Now you can win a fantastic prize pack full of @AlloraClean products. Read the rules below.👇🏼👇🏼

The win
$100 gift card to Walmart
150 wipes tub
50 wipes pack
Two sanitizers

The Rules
1. Follow both myself and @AlloraClean
Like the post
2. Tag a friend (1 tag = 1 entry)
3. Bonus entry: posting my post to your story and tagging both accounts

In general, the early stages of dating can be diff

In general, the early stages of dating can be difficult to navigate. Add in a pandemic, and getting a relationship off the ground becomes even more complicated. At our core, everyone wants to love and be loved. The pandemic has actually helped me find my perfect match. And I'm not alone in this. Self-isolation made me reevaluate what I truly wanted. The craziness of life quiets, the frenetic pace slowed down, and the trivial and mundane become apparent. Greater awareness surfaces in times of silence and surrender, becoming more emotional and accessible.

According to a new report from dating site, eharmony, on relationships in lockdown, more than 59 percent of new couples feel more committed to their partner during the pandemic, creating a wave of "turbo relationships." Thirty-six percent say they've hit common relationship milestones, like moving in together, much quicker. And this cranking up a notch of relationships has also led to more sex for 23 percent of couples.
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I'm a clean freak! I need everything put away and

I'm a clean freak! I need everything put away and spotless before I can go on with my day. For me finding the right vacuum has always been an issue. Not having a lot of space in my house, I need something that isn't bulky, easy to use and powerful enough to get rid of the dust that seems to appear daily. @miele_com just launched the Miele Triflex HX 1, and let me tell you, this puppy is a lifesaver!! It stands on its own with ease – allowing you to stop at any time to move items out of their way or pick up a toddler without having to hold the vacuum. Miele's Vortex motor offers a touchless, hygienic dust bin that empties with a quick tap of the switch. And it only weighs eight pounds allowing you to move it around with ease. If you're looking for a great 3-in-1 vacuum, look no further. The girls and I approve!! #miele_partner #LifeBeyondOrdinary #ad

And just like that, my girls start daycare. I can

And just like that, my girls start daycare. I can't describe my feelings. There is a sadness inside of me that no reasoning can subside. I know it's for the best and that they will learn so much, but my babies are not babies anymore. It's the first time that they are not with my mom or me. Will they feel abandoned? Will they be ok? Will I be ok? I'm not going to lie and say that the first two years have been easy, I'm looking forward to the next milestones, but there is a part of me that wants to keep them in my arms, safe from the world. God, this has been one of the hardest decisions I've had to make. And with sadness and pride, I send them off to school.

Photo By: @therobinsnest.to
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There is no worst feeling than when your child is

There is no worst feeling than when your child is sick. And with this stupid pandemic, things are even worst! A slight fever and your mind starts to wander. And to make things even more frustrating, you can't even go and see your doctor. If nurses are frontline workers, why has it become so difficult to see your family doctor? What can a facetime call do? I'm struggling to understand the lockdown but doctors!?!
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As I look at 2020, I can write about all the nega

As I look at 2020, I can write about all the negatives, but I want to reflect on the positive. My girls are happy and healthy, growing in love. I meet someone who has entered our lives and given me everything I was looking for. I have all of you that have helped and supported me through parenting issues I didn't quite understand. But what I do understand is as the year comes to an end, give yourself some credit for the days you made it when you thought you couldn't. What is coming is better than what is gone. Happy New Year, my friends. Let's make 2021 unforgettable. Choose to shine.
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After a couple of weeks of trying the new Canon IV

After a couple of weeks of trying the new Canon IVY Rec, I can say with confidence; you won't be disappointed. Take a picture with it, record a video with it, clip it and move on to your next escapade. The IVY REC lets you capture the excitement on every adventure you take with a compact design and built-in clip to attach to your backpack, belt loop or anywhere, so it's always where you need it. Capture great images with the 13.0-megapixel sensor and shoots full HD Up to 60 fps. It has Bluetooth and WiFi, making it super easy to transfer your content to your phone or tablet in seconds. Whether your family gets together to put up Christmas lights, build a snowman, or take a winter hike, I'd consider taking the Canon IVY Rec with you. @canoncanada #partner #CanonCanada #CanonIVYREC #giftideas #CanonUnderTheTree

We wanted to thank you all for all the support we

We wanted to thank you all for all the support we received during this crazy year. We wish you a very Merry Christmas full of love.

Photos by: @sarahmccallionphotography
Dress by: @fayonkids
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